Comments on: Should I send a letter, email, or nothing?

By: eei59aasd

eei59aasd — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 03:32:18 +0000

Do not send her anything. go on with your life and be knid to your step-child. She may grow up one day and realize that she is acting immature, but you can not help her with that.

By: Suzie Q

Suzie Q — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:53:46 +0000

My advice, don’t get married to this guy, don’t send that girl a letter, and seek counseling. Seriously, read what you wrote and this all sounds so jerry springer. Move on and find someone who doesn’t have all this baggage. Your life is going to be hell if you marry this guy, just a warning…

By: ashsretreat

ashsretreat — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:34:56 +0000

i as well have a soft heart but you can’t help those who don’t want help.

to answer your question,send nothing but if you will not feel right until you do then send an email and mail a copy to yourself so later she can’t say you were harassing her

good luck and good bless you

By: reubena

reubena — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 03:08:27 +0000

Sometimes when I am in your situation I write an unsent letter. I write down all the things that annoy me and put them under my pillowand sleep on it for a night or two. I dont address it to anyone and I dont show anyone. I write all my feelings. This helps air all the aminosity that I feel and it makes me feel a heap better. When it has cleared your need to re read the letter to make sure you still feel the same way. If you do go and see her face to face is always better then theres no he said she said and air the way you feel. Be vigilant if you ask her the way you want her to speak to you then you will get the response you need. It could also heel the aminosity that she feels towards you and your partner. If it still doesnt help then I suggest you leave it for awhile

GOOD LUCK

By: krystaldlrs

krystaldlrs — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 10:37:21 +0000

You have nothing to lose. Send her an email expressing how you feel and get everything off your chest. If she still doesn’t want to be friends, that’s her loss. She can think whatever she wants of you, but you can at least try to prove her wrong.

By: IndyGirl

IndyGirl — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 05:28:16 +0000

If you are going to be married to this boy, and he is going to be a part of his daughter’s life, then you are going to be a part of her life too.
So YES, you need to do your best to make peace with her mother.
You are all SO young that I would suggest you get mentors or parenting coaches involved if at all possible — maybe through your church or school or other community resource.
I sincerely wish ALL of you the best of luck, Honey!
xoxoxo

By: felix

felix — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:46:50 +0000

If it was me i would stay away from his ex. Its not going to do any good for your relationship with your fiancee. She is in the past so leave her there.

By: bootylicious

bootylicious — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 22:16:07 +0000

u should!
u sound like a very good and peaceful individual.