Jul 03
A guy I use to date about 6 months ago—and I had broke off. But for the last two months, we casually kept in contact via email. When we had *** 6 months ago—it was some of the BEST *** I ever had. And he use to always tell me, how great it was for him too. Well we SELDOMLY if ever used condoms and luckily I never got pregnant. Well, the other night—we hooked up. It had been 6 months since our last time, and he WORE a condom. He was SOFT the entire time and couldn’t keep an ********. I finally, told him—not to worry and we just went to sleep. Could he NOT get hard because of the condom, and him being use to going raw with me—or was he too nervous from time spent apart…I am confused and am wondering where we’ll go from here…because I NEVER want to initiate *** again unless he feels “up” to it (pun intended)
We also were pretty drunk
I’m 26 and he’s 25
Can everyone REPORT Krazylif for insulting me please.
July 6th, 2009 at 11:28 am
either too much alcohol or he was with someone else all day and was used up
July 8th, 2009 at 2:55 am
Drunk sounds right
July 10th, 2009 at 2:55 am
Alcohol tends to do that. Be sober next time you have ***.
July 12th, 2009 at 7:15 am
The alcohol can ave something to do with it, but also the condom itself can restrict blood flow. That being said, don’t stop using a condom fo that reason!
July 12th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Could be either of those reasons, or something else (medications, medical condition, too much alcohol, drug use, lack of real interest, etc).
If you aren’t on a good form of birth control, you are playing russian roulette with your body in not requiring your lovers to wear a condom…not to mention risk of acquiring an STD.
Most guys can get plenty aroused even with a condom on…the arousal occurs in the brain as much as stimulation to their ‘organ’.
Why is a fling with a former lover in Marriage & Divorce?
July 13th, 2009 at 8:34 pm
it probably had more to do with him being drunk then anything. but that will happen from time to time with men.
July 14th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
You posted this already. He was drunk and possibly tired and/or stressed
July 17th, 2009 at 12:50 am
The problem is the condoms. They are like making love with a glove on.
July 18th, 2009 at 6:10 am
As a man, I can tell you that the ***** can be a pretty tricky organ sometimes. My guess is that all three things you’ve mentioned affected his erection: the emotions that being with you again brought on, the reduction in sensitivity due to the condom, and the effects of alcohol. Try not to let it bother you at all – it happens to just about every man at some point in his life. (And those who disagree with that last sentence probably just haven’t reached that point yet.)
July 21st, 2009 at 7:28 am
he may have been drunk or high on *****. or maybe just nervous. if you do him again he is going to try and get you pregnant so that he can control you. this is good advice so do not boink him!!!
July 23rd, 2009 at 10:14 am
Alcohol inhibits sexual capacity.
Apart from that, you can’t imagine how hard (pun intended) it is for a guy to sustain an ******** throughout *** for a relatively long time with a condom. It makes very little difference for a girl, but (sorry for being graphic) imagine if your ******** was covered by latex. It wouldn’t be too fun!
Maybe take the COC pill? My girlfriend does and the *** is amazing
Good Luck
Max
July 26th, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Could be the booze/beer.
Maybe you smell different to him. Many of us get excited over smells as well as sights.
July 29th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
If you’re intimate enough to have *********** with him you should be able to ask him this question yourself. Perhaps he’s connected with another woman and feels guilty for sleeping with you?
July 29th, 2009 at 11:10 pm
pun intended haha..
ok on the serious note… alcohol makes a lot of guys limp so it should be that. Although it could be a combination of reasons… one he may have contracted an std hence wearing a condom and he couldn’t get it out of his mind which messed w/ his ********… or as you said its been a longggg time and maybe he wasn’t feeling confident enough to live up to his previous performance ( you did say it was the BEST *** ever) ummm idk.. don’t feel put off by the last incident… go ahead and initiate it.. just lay off the alcohol next time
July 30th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
It was probably a combination of the alcohol and the condom. It’s not your fault, as I have some of the same issues with my bf. If it doesn’t work once, you just have to keep trying. It will eventually happen. Take condom off next time and **** it. It should get hard! Good Luck!!
August 2nd, 2009 at 5:45 pm
Sounds like the perfect situation to keep a guy from performing at his usual capacity. First time to use a condom with you, the getting comfortable with each other again after a long separation and the biggest ******** killer…..being drunk. Give it a few days and I bet everything will be back to normal. To not make him not feel like a failure tell him it is understandable list all the list all the stress factors and especially being drunk as more than enough to make that happen to anyone
August 4th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
It’s probably because he was drunk.