Jul 23
Jul 06
Please bear with me I have an incredibly odd situation. The guy that I’m with is the same guy I’ve been with for 3 years. However there was a brief period where we broke up for a few months. In those few months I became friends with his ex. We hung out between about January and May. So it was a decent amount of time to get to know one another.
In normal circumstances this would be odd. You don’t just become friends with your ex’s ex. (It just sort of happened. She messaged me one day about a month or so after we broke up wanting to know if it was true and if I was pregnant.) In this situation though, its even worse. See when the two of them were 14 they had a baby! It was a huge drama of course and it basically ended up with her leaving him and refusing to ever let him see their daughter. He’s been trying for 4 years to get her to make some peace and she won’t. (He really didn’t do anything to be kept away, she just hates him. She told me so herself) So you can see why its really impossible for me to be friends with both.
Anyway, my guy and I have decided to get married. Our wedding is set for August. He also filed for parental rights as soon as he turned 18. So I have a looming role as a step mom. I really **** that the friendship with his ex had to end, and that its only going to get worse as his visitation starts with his daughter. I was reading through an old journal that I kept and I read that parts that I wrote about how bad I felt for his ex. She is quite a troubled girl. She sleeps around a lot and has low self esteem. People look down on her for having a kid so young and people quit being her friend because she treated my fiance so badly. She doesn’t get why, and she doesn’t have good friends who won’t betray her. I have been blessed with really good friends and I have a soft heart that always wants to reach out to people who haven’t been as blessed as me. This girl hates me now because I got back with my guy and because I support him in seeing his daughter. I’ve said some really mean things to her when we got into fights. It’s not that she didn’t start it and say mean things to me, but I still shouldn’t have reacted like that. I want to write her a letter or send her an email to try to express my feelings, but I don’t know how she’ll take it. She’s convinced that I’m just a heartless b**ch who is trying to take her daughter. It isn’t like that. I want this to be a peaceful situation. So should I try to tell her what I’m thinking or not?
Jul 03
A guy I use to date about 6 months ago—and I had broke off. But for the last two months, we casually kept in contact via email. When we had *** 6 months ago—it was some of the BEST *** I ever had. And he use to always tell me, how great it was for him too. Well we SELDOMLY if ever used condoms and luckily I never got pregnant. Well, the other night—we hooked up. It had been 6 months since our last time, and he WORE a condom. He was SOFT the entire time and couldn’t keep an ********. I finally, told him—not to worry and we just went to sleep. Could he NOT get hard because of the condom, and him being use to going raw with me—or was he too nervous from time spent apart…I am confused and am wondering where we’ll go from here…because I NEVER want to initiate *** again unless he feels “up” to it (pun intended)
We also were pretty drunk
I’m 26 and he’s 25
Can everyone REPORT Krazylif for insulting me please.
May 21
He got an email on Friday asking to meet up when she came home, she lives out of state, it’s been 15 years. He did not respond to that email but at 1215am on Saturday he responded that they could meet but it needed to be in private as my wife knows how I felt about you and would get mad, she also asked for his cell number and he gave it to her. He told her that he still has a soft spot in his heart for her and if this we 10 years ago he would have jumped at this chance, he even said if something were to happen between me and him now then maybe. He then emailed her again the next day after she sent another one telling her that she could come to a ball tournament and then maybe go somewhere and talk alone but it would need to be alone because you know how small towns are, he also told her in the 1st email to call between 6-4 or at 330 because he has a 1/2 drive home or would be at work and they could talk. He did tell me on Sunday about it but I think it was b/c he thought I knew becasu
because of a comment I made to him and he called his brother and he told him that he should probaly tell me since then he is still sending emails to her but he makes sure I see them 1st and if she emails he tells me or shows me
what she has sent e has since said that he did not mean things the way they sounded but doesn’t really act like he did anything wrong that he just misspoke and has apologized that he hurt my feeling and feels bad about that, she continues to email and text him in which he shows me what i think is all of them, but at this point I don’t know if it really is or not, she also set up an new email account for him so i wouldn’t be able to see what they say but he did tell me about that and showed me it and the username and password. I am not sure what to say or do, i’m confused He does tell her that he is happily married with 4 kids which I might add that he did tell her that in his first email also. It seems to me he done a complete 180 when he thought I might know and decided to tell me about it himself, my worry is she is coming home in a few weeks and still wants to meet with him and I think he wants to meet with her also, to get questions answered about why things ended the way they did.
I do not like to air my dirty laundry on the net but as I said I have 4 children and am a stay at home mom, I don’t have alot of friends and the ones I do I would not want to tell about this, I would rather get input from others so please do not think bad of me for airing my dirty laundry on the net, i just need advice and have no where to get it.
Thanks
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